Malaysia's "obedient wives" anger rights groups

KUALA LUMPUR Sun Jun 5, 2011 1:50am EDT

KUALA LUMPUR (Reuters Life!) - A Malaysian group urging wives to avoid marital problems by fulfilling their husbands' sexual desires like prostitutes has angered politicians and women's rights groups, the New Straits Times reported on Sunday.

The Obedient Wives Club, which was set up by a group of Muslim women, said domestic violence, infidelity and prostitution stemmed from a lack of belief in God and a failure of women to satisfy their husbands.

The club's president, Rohaya Mohamed, said it was open to women of all religions and would conduct seminars on how to be a good wife as well as offer marriage counseling.

"A man married to a woman who is as good or better than a prostitute in bed has no reason to stray. Rather than allowing him to sin, a woman must do all she can to ensure his desires are met," Rohaya told the newspaper.

Females outnumber males in Malaysian higher education institutions, comprising 65 percent of the intake at public universities last year, according to government data.

But rights groups say women are still often victims of gender bias, and have protested what they considered the club's demeaning portrayal of women as a cause of social problems.

"Abusive men often use women's behavior as a sick justification, but in the end, their actions are their responsibility," said Ratna Osman, acting executive director at rights group Sisters-in-Islam.

"To hinge fidelity, domestic violence and the fulfillment of a husband's responsibilities purely on a wife's capacity to be obedient, stimulate sexual arousal ... is not only demeaning to wives, but to husbands as well," said Women, Family and Community Development Minister Shahrizat Jalil.

(Reporting by Razak Ahmad; Editing by Robert Birsel)

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Comments (2)
ladygoodman wrote:
Here’s a newsflash for you, Obedient Wives: men are pigs! Infidelity is adultry, regardless of the gender of the offender, and the offenders are responsible for their own behavior! Do Muslim men not take marital vows, or do just the women? If your husbands have manipulated you into debasing yourselves because you think they won’t stray because you act like a stray, YOU need counseling, and so do they! Eve was made from Adam’s rib to stand by his side as an equal, not from his thumb or his heel. Sex is supposed to be sacred, not slutty. Are your needs being met? Domestic violence is the worst kind of abuse, and there is no excuse for that, either. Claim your divinity, ladies. You’re no less children of God than ANY man.

Jun 05, 2011 3:46am EDT  --  Report as abuse
ladygoodman wrote:
P.S. If your husband wants a whore for a wife, don’t think for a minute that acting like one will keep him home at night. All that will do is lessen your value to him as a person and a life partner. What makes you think he’ll respect you for acting like the prostitutes he can pick up any where for peanuts? Get a grip!

Jun 05, 2011 3:49am EDT  --  Report as abuse
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