Half of men would ditch woman who gained weight: poll

NEW YORK Tue Jul 26, 2011 3:17pm EDT

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NEW YORK (Reuters Life!) - Men are more concerned with their partner's body type than women but they also seem to value family more highly, according to a new survey released on Tuesday.

Nearly half of men questioned in the poll of 70,000 people said they would ditch a partner who gained weight, compared to only 20 percent of women.

Two-third of men also said they had fantasized about their partner's friends, while only one-third of women had done so.

"Even as men are getting more comfortable with meeting their girlfriends online and less anxious about who she's 'friending' there, other romantic behaviors have proven to be timeless ones: chivalry isn't dead, size matters, and women forgive while men forget," said James Bassil, editor-in-chief of AskMen, which conducted the poll jointly with Cosmopolitan.com.

While only 18 percent of women said they would want their mate to be better endowed, more than 51 percent of men said they wished they themselves were.

But the survey also found 39 percent of men chose family as their top choice of the ultimate status symbol. By contrast, 43 percent of women selected a beautiful home, compared to only 6.5 percent of men. One-quarter of women named a successful partner as a top status symbol.

But men were more likely to lie about the number of sex partners they had had (50 percent) than women (35 percent).

One thing both sexes agreed on was an as-yet undeveloped male birth control pill, an idea that proved popular all around. More than half of women would want their partner to take it, while more than two-thirds of men were ready for male birth control.

But the sexes differed about paying for dates, at least in the early stages. More women, 38 percent, think each should pay their own way, versus 33 percent who think men should foot the bill. But 59 percent of men think they should cover the tab, at least until a relationship is established.

Nearly 80 percent of men said they feel cheated by the divorce courts. But more women feel the sexes receive equal treatment than those who agree the men get a raw deal.

Women are also far less comfortable with their mates keeping in touch with their ex. More than two-thirds of men are okay with their partner friending an ex on Facebook, as opposed to 38 percent of women.

But three-quarters of men surveyed said they consider sexting cheating.

The full results of the poll can be found at www.askmen.com/specials/great_male_survey and at www.askmen.com/specials/great_female_survey

(Reporting by Chris Michaud; editing by Patricia Reaney)

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Comments (5)
jobardu wrote:
The survey results are surprising. The article states that only 80% of men feel cheated by divorce court. For the past three decades, at least according to refereed publications I’ve seen cited in Medline, the percentage of men who felt cheated by divorce proceedings exceeded 90%. In fact, some polls found so few men who felt fairly treated by divorce courts they cited the statistical error in the poll as a percentage of men who felt fairly treated.

Still, Reuters deserves praise for their willingness to publish an article which even raises the issue. In the US mainstream media just about all articles on family, family law, even on fatherhood, are written by women who are, as they say, sensitive to women’s issues, and just about no articles in the press deal with the medically reported impacts of divorce on men,which include the loss of the opportunity to remain a parent to their children, on the treatment of men criminal suspects in the family law system, and on the history of false accusations being accepted at face value.

Men’s groups have been trying to change the law for decades but get no visibility in the US media. I was working with a fatherhood group in a large US Eastern City and called the editor of the main newspaper in the City about publishing an article correcting some male and father bashing that appeared in the paper. I was told that, “if the paper published articles by the fatherhood group I represented (a nationally recognized moderate group) then they would have to publish articles by every right wing militia group that came along”. Oh well….

Jul 26, 2011 5:03pm EDT  --  Report as abuse
darthben wrote:
Funny how they don’t ask what women do when their man gains weight – the same thing – probably more. I see far more skinny men with fat women than the opposite.

Jul 26, 2011 9:21pm EDT  --  Report as abuse
asdasdas wrote:
darthben they did, and it was 20% for women. Can you not read?

Jul 26, 2011 10:40pm EDT  --  Report as abuse
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